Has this happened to you? After working on a really big project, you feel like a promotion is totally in the bag. Until you get to the review and instead of receiving that raise, you get what you perceive to be negative feedback about your performance. A knot forms in your stomach and you do everything you can to hold it together in front of your boss.
Here are three typical responses to a negative performance evaluation:
- Emotion — crying or anger.
- Ambivalence — what do you care anyway?
- Or Shock and a knee jerk reaction, like quitting.
Before identifying which response applies to you, check this out:
If you never get course correction, you may find yourself 10 years from now in the same job with only minor advancements. If you only receive positive feedback during a review, it might be that your boss is afraid to give you any career direction. You build a false sense of security thinking, “everyone likes me…but I don’t get why I am passed over for a promotion.”
Now it’s time for some straight talk. Women often don’t receive honest feedback because the reviewer doesn’t want you to cry. Yep for real, it makes the person delivering the information really uncomfortable. You may think you are getting real feedback, when in reality it has been watered down to “spare your feelings”. The risk of not receiving a transparent review is stagnation and not moving forward.
Feedback is key and the way you respond to it is everything.
Three things to remember before you go into your review:
- No matter what, keep your composure. If you are unsure, ask a friend to role-play so you are prepared.
- Doing your job isn’t enough to get a raise. It is the minimum that is expected of you to have a job.
- Room for improvement is a good thing. It allows for personal growth and can lead to even greater things.
If the thought of going into your boss’ office is giving you butterflies, don’t worry. Check out our free How to handle feedback tip sheet. And always remember: You’ve got this