Discovering our power, that inner strength that helps us get through the most challenging of times, is one of the most important personal skills leaders have. Are we born with courage or can we acquire skills to unleash something we never knew we had before? This is a question I recently asked myself when facing a really difficult situation.
Every day we face challenges. Most are small, some can be really big. Life influences our actions, like celebrations or sad occasions, like a death. Each time our experiences form who we are as a person — but there are days when we wish we could put our super hero cape on and make everything disappear.
You have had those times, like going into a review knowing it may not be a rosy picture. Or getting heart wrenching personal news like the death of a close friend or family member. How we respond to these moments, not only creates our character, but shows those around us a window into the stuff we are really made of.
Have you ever wondered, “What if I don’t have personal power?” And that doubt makes you want to crumble into a little ball rather than face what lies ahead? The answer is, we all feel like this! It isn’t really “if” but rather “when” you will feel like you can’t go on. Your inner light is all you have.
When you feel like you don’t know what to do next, keep this list close by and use it!
- Start with what you know: Make a list of all your strengths
- Imagine a time when: You felt invincible. What did it feel like? Write it down!
- Visualize getting to yes: In any scenario, the goal is to find a way to feel good and say YES! I did it. What does that look like to you?
- What is your biggest fear? Each of us holds ourselves back worrying about something. What is it that keeps you up at night? Imagine that it just vanished away. What does that feel like?
- Lasting impression: How did others respond to your actions in a difficult situation? What would you put on rewind and what you change?
- Dig deep: Whatever you are facing, there is more courage inside than you knew you had. The story of a Mom picking up a car that was on her child is the amount of strength you have. You only need to believe it is there.
- Believe: You might be thinking you are the only one who has to face this, or do this or…fill in the blank. Know and believe you are not alone.
- Ask: Do you have a best friend? She is only a call (or text!) away. Don’t think you are a hero for going it by yourself. The true heroine gets help when she needs it.
- Accept imperfection: The notion that life is like the movies…well, we all know it isn’t. You can create your own story with an ending that is even better if you allow yourself to be good enough just as you are.
- Savor your victories: Life rushes by and we tend to dismiss our wins, as “Oh it was nothing.” On the contrary! This is your time to celebrate all the amazing things you have accomplished and tap into that feeling.
- Explore the unknown: Raise your hand, volunteer before you are ready. Why not you? Everyone had to learn sometime. Take advantage of your skills and love to learn what you don’t know already.
- Enjoy the ride: If life were perfect, how boring would that be? Each time you try something, you make progress and along the way, you’re creating the “I CAN” belief in yourself.
- Feel the adrenaline rush: If you haven’t worked out in awhile, this is the time. It gives clarity, builds stamina and you will forget everything you worried about.
- Be thankful: Whenever we start to feel bad about a situation, we tend to forget about all is going well in our lives. When we express gratitude it immediately makes us feel invincible.
- Be Generous: You have so many gifts that are taken for granted. That skill that everyone comes to you for…use it to help someone in need. Watch how it makes you feel inside!
Now it is your turn. Make your list, take action and let us know how you felt. Share your story with us on Facebook, we love to hear from you. Always remember: You Got This!