In business, mentors are often recommended for people looking to receive advice on a regular basis from a senior level person. Often mentors are in the same industry or have knowledge of your career path. A friendtor, on the other hand, is more than a friend. She is someone who you can go to more frequently and less formally than a mentor, but still holds you accountable more than an average friend might.
You might be thinking, I have friends who share life’s journey with me and they support me 100% along the way. That is awesome! We all need people in our lives who can give us their undying loyalty and support. But…we also need someone who challenges us in a positive way.
The Impact of a Friendtor
Recently, I got to meet my virtual friendtor of 1 ½ years for the first time. We met in a Chalene Johnson group called Courageous Confidence Club on Facebook. I read one of her posts and thought, “I need to reach out to her!” I reached out and we talked on the phone and Boom! Instant connection.
Quickly, we found that we shared so many common goals and aspirations that it seemed like a good idea to talk on a regular basis and we set up a weekly call. Every Saturday at 8 AM we have talked. No matter what! In 18 months we have missed less than 5 calls together. That is really something!
We shared our thirst for knowledge and personal growth taking 3 online courses together. And on one amazing weekend recently, we met at the B-School Bonus day given by Amy Porterfield. Holy COW this was an event. And the best part? We kicked it off doing something we both feared, live video!
This is the best part, because the friendtor is that in-between you can share the fear with and push each other the way mentors do at the same time.
What would you do if you had a friendtor? Sound like a good idea? Here are 5 fast tips to take action on TODAY and find your friendtor.
5 Easy Ways to Find a Friendtor
- Join a Facebook Group. – Look where there are people that share common interests.
- Read Posts Actively. Like, comment, and share posts that interest you.
- Start a Conversation. Choose someone who inspires you and will also be able to push you.
- Send a Direct Message in Messenger on Facebook. Explain that you really like her posts and you would like to connect for a virtual cup of coffee on the phone.
- Stay in Contact. Don’t reach out once. Be purposeful and schedule future calls.
Why A Friendtor is More Than a Friend
A friendtor is not a typical friend. This person is someone who sees where you want to go and may even share that vision and want to go with you. The key differentiator is that you share a mutual accountability that keeps both of you striving to get to the next goal. It’s this element of accountability that helps you move forward and differentiates a friend from the combination Friend + Mentor.
Action Item: Look today for a group where you feel the most connected and engaged and find one person to connect with and reach out. Always remember, You Got This!
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