As our daughters get older, finding common ground and fun ways to spend time together can be a challenge. This is especially true with preteen and early teenage girls. Hormones, peer pressure, and even the day-to-day stresses of navigating through middle school can sometimes make finding ways to connect and bond a struggle. A spa day together just might be the perfect solution.
Taking care of mental health is important at any age. In a time of constant interaction and messages entering into the brain, we often don’t make time to just be still. It is especially important for girls to learn to make time for themselves and do things that make them feel good. Using a salon or spa as your place of common ground can also help you model and reinforce some really important life lessons that will serve her well throughout her life.
These invaluable lessons include:
Importance of managing stress: Not only does planning time to relax demonstrate that you recognize she has stress; you are also teaching her how to effectively manage it in a productive way. It’s okay to take a break and do something just for yourself. The health benefits are well documented and reinforce why making this a habit will help her now and in the future.
Taking care of body: Sure, you talk to your daughter at length about the importance of taking care of her skin and body. Doing something like getting a mani-pedi together shows how taking this time helps her overall well being. It is also not a bad thing as a mom to take some time out to feel good as well!
Embracing peaceful moments: In a world of emails, social media, and smartphones, finding truly peaceful moments can prove to be almost impossible. You can help your daughter learn to embrace these quiet times and use it as an opportunity to mentally unwind and relax. It’s sometimes quiet times like these where you learn the most about her fears and triumphs.
Fun Services To Consider When Planning Your Day
Are you worried about how to pick a place to go where girls and their moms can go together? Many nail salons and day spas actually offer an entire menu of services geared specifically for younger clients. There is a wide range of services available including salons, spas and nail only locations.
Some fun treatments include:
Manicure/pedicure: Looking for a fun way to relax, yet still have an opportunity to chat with each other during your treatment? Opt for a mani and/or pedi service. You will have fun soaking, relaxing and picking out your colors together while someone else manages the heavy lifting (aka nail painting).
Facials: Getting a facial can teach your daughter the importance of good skincare and help her develop lifelong habits. Let her choose what type of facial she wants and be sure to talk about how she liked it, if her skin feels healthier, smoother, etc. after it’s over.
Makeup session: Many young girls struggle with applying makeup — especially when they first begin wearing it. Make an appointment to review proper application as well as which colors work best with her skin tone. Sephora and Ulta offer services that help identify the best products for every skin type. Want a little added bonding experience? Have your makeup done and head out to a fancy lunch or dinner together!
Haircut and/or style: Getting a new hairstyle can give girls of any age an instant boost of confidence. If your daughter isn’t interested in a bold new cut, schedule just a hairstyle session and let her experiment with a temporary new look for fun. Take her to a “blowout” salon the next time she has a special occasion. She will feel great and enjoy the experience.
What are you favorite ways to spend time together? Do you each have your own favorite “must-have” beauty services? We’d love to hear about them – share your ideas below.