In a new video Dove asked three blind Swedish women Anna Bergholz, Naomi Allback, and Ida Ostlund “How do you know you’re beautiful if you can’t see your reflection in the mirror?” Two women lost their sight, Bergholz 13 years ago, and Allback 15 years ago, while Ostlund has been blind since birth. Their responses to defining beauty were really interesting.
In the beginning of the video the women talk about how they used to view beauty and they say the things they wish they were for example “a little taller, blond, it would be fun to have curly hair ”. Then Allback talked about how she struggled with self-esteem issues “Particularly at the beginning, I didn’t have very good self-esteem” she said. Allback worried about the same thing women who are able to see think about-flaws they believe are there when no one else sees them. She shifted her definition of beauty to not be about her appearance but more about how she felt. “If I’m in love, it comes from within. If you radiate warmth, humility, and love, then you’re beautiful to me” she said.
Ostlund, who had no reference of what she looks like said “I feel beautiful when I’m energetic, when I’m feeling good, when I’m feeling strong … when it feels as if I’m in the right place, doing the right things; meaningful things, I automatically feel beautiful.” This is true beauty, doing life’s purpose and feeling how great that is.
For Bergholtz, she feels beautiful when she is having fun. All three defined beauty as a feeling not based on their appearance. Dove has been creating these videos around the world and what is interesting is that women for the most part defined beauty initially by what they lack-or wish they had. In this video hearing how these women changed their definition of beauty is inspiring.
Three ways to help your daughter feel beauty
Share this video and ask her how beauty feels to her. Does she feel more beautiful when she is with friends, having fun or achieving a milestone at school?
Create an activity to do together that strengthens this feeling of inner beauty-singing together, riding bikes, taking a hike, or playing with the family pet. Capture that feeling and remember it the next time either of you question your own beauty.
Ask her to talk with friends and find two ways they each make each other feel beauty. Then, write it down on a piece of paper that they each can keep with them to remember how beauty feels when they start to have self-doubt.
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