For more than 70 years the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie is the go to book for helping people live by the golden rule. Carnegie took real life scenarios and shared them to help the reader understand why being kind and thinking of others really pays it forward.
Flash forward to today where we see teenage girls needing to understand and apply these same principles to help them with friendships and their relationships with others. Donna Dale Carnegie has taken the ideas from the classic and updated them into a new book just for girls “How to Win Friends and Influence for Teen Girls”. It is a great book to help identify the real challenges girls face and how they can improve their approach to a situation.
Bullying is in the news much more frequently, and yet people don’t really talk about why they let it continue. In this book, Carnegie interviewed teen girls to share their experiences and highlight the need for helping them take a different approach.
Here is What Julie Age 14 Said:
“There was a girl in my class named Marie that everyone makes fun of. She’s a total perfectionist and always uses the full hour to take a test that the rest of the class finishes in ten minutes. She’s obsessed with ballet and all she ever wanted to talk about was her dance classes. Also, it was kind of the way she looked. I tried to be nice to her, but I also participated in teasing her. She laughed at herself and didn’t let people know that she was hurt by what they said about her, but her mom told my mom that she cried every day after school. When my mom confronted me about it, I felt terrible. I told her that I tried sticking up for her, but it was hard. You want people to like you and I didn’t want to become a target by sticking up for her. I know how horrible that is. I’ve been teased before too…”
Girls face being on both sides of the situation every day and it can be hard to know just what to do. It is heartbreaking when your daughter cries every day after school and while talking with school administrators can help, the girls often don’t want to have an intervention because it draws more attention to them. This book is a great tool to help her find answers in a private way which often is what teen girls prefer.
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