Kids are back in school, and parents are faced with questions about how to help them navigate through tough situations. One of the more serious challenges girls face is how to respond to bullying. After hearing about his daughter’s experience at school when kids made fun of her size, author and word artist Khari Touré took action, using his talent to create a music video Love Yourself. The result? It went viral and is helping more than just his daughter feel good about themselves.
The words focus on positive self-image:
And those mean words
Can’t hurt me
And I love myself
I’m focused on my health
There will be people who criticize
Bullies who talk about your weight, color, and size
But beauty comes in every size, color, and shape
And your beauty can’t be measured with that measuring tape
Your worth isn’t determined by your weight
Touré bridges the gap in age groups by sharing that while his youngest was bullied for her weight, his oldest worried about being too thin. The lyrics address the risk of eating disorders from these two opposing scenarios. There is compassion about the difficulties girls face of being able to love themselves. Helping girls realize that they are special just the way they are is a recurring message throughout his song. Touré takes a unique approach of not only including kids in the video, but having them repeat back the words to reinforce the message of “…there are better days ahead”.
Real Risks and Why it is so Important to Include Dads in the Fight Against Bullying
Unfortunately, the old theory that kids get tougher when they face obstacles is not only inaccurate when it comes to bullying, it is also extremely risky to take this approach. The increased rate of suicide for victims of bullying is alarming. Having a father engaged in a daughter’s struggles not only strengthens their relationship, it will encourage the girl to know that she is worth standing up for.
While women make up 85% of financial and healthcare decisions in the family, their voices sometimes go unheard when raising important concerns about bullying. Including the father in the dialogue gives strength to the need for action. When fathers play a bigger role in anti-bullying it benefits both their own family and the community as well.