You had a phone interview with the recruiter and it went well. Next, there was an in-person interview and you thought it was great too! Connections were made, and you even followed up. So when the call came, you were thinking it would be an offer.
Instead you hear “we really appreciate your applying for our position, however, we decided to go with another candidate.” Your heart sinks…and in your head you hear a voice saying, “why didn’t I get the job?”
1) Feeling Like You Are Not Enough
First, it is so easy to be hard on yourself. So don’t! When you hear the voice inside your head saying you really should have done XYZ, realize that the things you are thinking you didn’t do right, might not have had any impact at all.
What matters to employers can be complicated and there are many factors. The bigger the company, the more layered the hiring process can be and you may never really know for certain why you were not selected.
2) Second Guessing Your Actions
Now it’s time to get focused and think about what you really want. Maybe the job wasn’t a fit – were you really all in or did you only go half way? If your honest answer is – maybe you could have done more to prepare, then you know what to do. Next time, you will do better!
And if you feel you gave it 100% and you are thinking “but I really was prepared — I am so mad it didn’t work out!” Keep in mind, it is more than likely that someone else had more qualifications or was a better fit. And as hard as that is, remember this: it isn’t personal – it’s information. Even when you know this, your heart may still sting a little. That’s only natural!
3) Job Envy
What if you feel you did prepare and you followed up just the way you were supposed to, but the job went to…your friend? Yep, having your dream job go to someone you know is one of the worst disappointments. You might be saying to yourself “I really am happy for her…but why then do I secretly wish she wouldn’t accept?”
There are plenty of other feelings you might be having, but one thing is for sure — if you don’t act, you will always be right where you are. Now it’s time to get focused on becoming totally ready for the next time. Still not sure what to do? Check out this free guide:
We love to hear from you, send us a note and tell us your toughest moment when you didn’t get the job you hoped to get.